Something I came across on facebook. Real interesting read.
UNDER THE INFLUENCE!!!
Mary J. Blige was on “The View” today. She spoke about her relationship with Whitney Houston and the funeral. Mary also spoke about her own addiction to cocaine and alcohol… One thing that she said is something that I convey to people all the time, “People want you to be high so they can keep getting checks and robbing you blind.” She also said that young people must have their parents or someone who really has their best interest at heart.
I am not a big drinker. I don’t have alcohol at home and I don’t drink when I go to events. I believe in always having a sober mind. When you are under the influence you put yourself in vulnerable situations. Many people “socialize” not thinking that while someone is giving you a hug they are also putting something in your drink.
We have to be smarter. Everyone wants to be in the business but few are business minded. Everything is all good when you’re drinking and getting high. We had the Billie Holiday’s, Michael Jackson’s, and Whitney Houston’s of the world and people turned their backs on them when they were strung-out and no longer useful.
Being an entertainer could be a beautiful thing but drugs and alcohol are not your friends… Whenever someone offers me a drink after I’ve told them that I don’t drink I say to myself, “What is this persons agenda. Why are they not respecting the fact that I don’t drink alcohol in public places?” No one is going to love you or take care of you better than you, except God.
The literary world and entertainment business is filthy. Satan is all up in it and you have to be strong and stick to your convictions. Don’t surround yourself with yes men or women. Surround yourself with a person who will get in your ass if you begin going down the wrong road. Cut out the entourage. In the Black community we feel the need to take care of everyone when we make it. It didn’t work for MC Hammer and it will not work for you. Anyone willing to sit around, dressing, eating, and flossing courtesy of you is not your friend. They’re not bringing anything to the table besides ego boosting until your well runs dry.
When you’re under the influence you may be able to get to a certain level but in order to maintain it you will have to stay high. If some of the well-known celebrities that are under the influence were to sober up, I can imagine all the truths and deception that would be revealed. Mary J was able to let go of the negative people in her life and surround herself with positive people who respects where’s she’s at in her life and gives her the love and support that she needs.
People scream weed comes from the earth and that is true, but the weed that is being smoked today is filled with cocaine, chemicals, even formaldehyde… Look at our young kids with the black lips, smelling, and looking a hot mess. Their attention span is shot to shit. They know nothing about moderation. There are grown men/women who don’t work because they don’t want to give up smoking.
God is my high. He makes me happy and when I am down I can think of all the blessings and find something that will bring a smile to my face.
I’m not saying be Goodie Two Shoes but I also don’t want us to continue to be Boo Boo the Fool. If we continue on this rocky road we will forever mourn our historical greats and our own loved ones to drugs and alcohol.
© 2012 Tiffani Real
What is love?
Some say love is being blind, some say love is pain. Some say love isn’t existent anymore, some say they’ll never find it.
But have you felt it? By definition, Love is an intense feeling of deep attraction, A feeling of deep personal attachment. But I find love to be much more than that. Some parents say love is only felt at it’s magnitude when you have a child. Some people say love is giving your life to save someone else’s. I feel love is even more than that.
Love, TO ME, is a strong feeling that moves you, makes you want to act, to feel, to please, to do more, be more and see more. Love is suffering. Not by you but for you. Love is being what makes a person yearn to be more of what is meant for them to be. Love is a hug when you can feel that someone needs it. Love is someone telling you you’re beautiful when you don’t even feel that way about yourself. Love is what makes you move, and what motivates you to act and move when change needs to be made for the better. Love is something I could never articulate how i’d like, but I know it because I come from it. It’s not perfect, but perfectly flawed, and flawed just enough that it’s perfect for you. Love forgives. Love is infectious, makes you want to return it once you receive it. Love is NOT dumb, deaf, or blind, Love sees you clearly. Love is NOT pain, (wouldn’t that be the opposite of love anyway?) but instead heals it. Love fights. Not against you, but with you, and for you. Love is humble. It doesn’t come from arrogance. Love comes from a clean heart. Love supports. It never dies. Love is the greatest give God could ever give man. Daily we misuse it. We abuse it and overlook it. We laugh at the thought of it ever being attainable. We say it’s corny, it’s stupid to consider. Showing love is out of the question, being that the right way to be is loveless, careless, and painful. Arrogant about being ignorant about it. Bold about being backwards. One of the most beautiful things in life, to me is loving fearlessly and despite timeless disappointments, and despair loving as if you never felt pain before. I consider it a blessing to know love with such heavy concentration. It’s not diluted. It’s not ran down, tainted, or conditional. It’s forever and it’ll never leave me. Daily I fight with the fact that most people can’t accept love. I grow pissed. It makes me act with such duality, wanting to love and not wanting to care because you grow disgusted with the fact that no one can accept it anyway. I hope. All I hope for…is for people to see it, feel it, show it, and know what it is. Truly.